5 strategies to build your confidence

For me, confidence is a learned behaviour. I define confidence as ‘success remembered’. Remembering your success can be difficult when you spend your days looking at what other people are achieving. With these 5 strategies you will go from nervous to confident.

1 Stop comparing yourself to other people

Comparing ourselves to other people is a natural thing. We do it at a young age with our friends or brothers and sisters. At school we are constantly put up and compared against other people with grades. We take this into life and look at other people and our comparison affects our confidence.

What makes this worse is that we compare ourselves to people who are at different stages. If you are comparing to somebody 5–10 years ahead of where you are at, the expectation that you should be the same is unrealistic. It is one thing to look to what they are doing but it is another to expect the same results as them right now.

The only comparison I now do is with my previous self. I compare where I am now to where I once was. The growth that I see provides confidence, and this is the start of an approach of how to build confidence.

2 Change your mind about ‘failure’ and ‘losing’

How often do you approach a task and think if it doesn’t go well, you have failed? ‘Failure’ and ‘losing’ are two things that provide learning, and they are not absolutes. If something doesn’t go…